When Harry Met Sally?

Can’t men & women just be friends? I admit that it’s rare that I’ve had a male friend and not even wondered what things would be like on a different level. A couple ex-boyfriends were friends first & sometimes I was able to go back to just being friends with one of them. I have one male friend who will NEVER be anything but a friend. He’s almost 19 years older than I am, a single dad, and just an all around nice person. We don’t discuss sexual experiences or anything explicit or flirt EVER. I don’t & just don’t want to think of him that way. I know he does his thing & he knows that I do mine. He now lives two doors down from me since I moved. I even considered passing on my property when I realized it was so close since I didn’t want him to feel like I was going to expect to hang out all the time.
I picked up a bunch of storage bins from Home Depot & gave some of the extras to my friend Bill. J got all pissed b/c when I stopped over, I made plans for the following evening to watch a movie with Bill and his son providing J didn’t have anything planned that would conflict.
When I told J, he said that he didn’t like it. He basically said that it wasn’t right & I shouldn’t go, and that anyone would agree with him. We’ve been fighting since Tuesday night as a result. I may have been a cheat, but I’ve passed up on it since I’ve been with J. I don’t think of my friend that way. I prefer to go over between 9 & 10 pm so I can say hi to the kids but still have a little “grown up” time when they go to bed at 10. ( i.e. Not having to be mindful of language while talking about my day)
J won’t admit that he’s jealous & insecure and I won’t give up a friend that has been there for me through thick and thin. I don’t even hang with the one I dated because that’s a potential danger. Yesterday was T’s birthday & I didn’t even drop by his party.
I’m feeling controlled, and like a possession. I feel that he’s gotten too comfortable being joined at my hip & if it’s not a trust issue, it’s the fact that he doesn’t have 100% of my attention. I’ve let him go everywhere with me & when I don’t, it’s a fight. This is my friend and I’m at the point where I just don’t feel as if he’s entitled to come along. Bill said that he’d like us to both come over after Thanksgiving craziness is over. For now, J just has to deal with me flying solo. I already feel as though I’m going to just start doing more on my own b/c he’s too (________)??? If Bill were a straight chick it’d be fine! (J also has an issue with me hanging with one of my sales reps b/c she is gay and she’s interested in me.) Apparently I just don’t have a say in who I’m interested in & if someone likes me then it’s on! I’ve been totally faithful & I don’t want to be with anyone else physically. When did I become his property? I know how it could appear but I’ve never been one to give a shit & neither has J so for him to say that feels like an excuse. If I am wrong, I just can’t see it.

NYC Weekend

I had so much fun with my best friend and her two boys. She gave me permission to post photos that I took with them all around town! The NYC marathon tried to stop us but we managed to do a bunch of tourist things and still have a s-load of fun! Lady Liberty said What'up! We were Moonstruck & Wicked! The place was like a Zoo...It was such Bull!

There's Something About Magda...

Oh so gross. I went on vacation a few years ago & while we were at the beach in Aruba, one of the men in the group kept getting followed by a woman that looked this way. I love the sunshine & have gone tanning but I also love my skin & the fact that it is not trying to escape from my body. SPF is easy to use...

So anyway I'll be going to St. Barts for a long weekend in Feb. & it reminded me of the Aruba thing. This woman must have lived on the sun for a long time & was very bony and making grunting sounds while following my friend's husband around. I'll have to see if I can get some photos & if he's cool with it being on here. The photos are all of her back so you can see the horror on his face building with each shot! That was some funny shit!

So I just got the photos from the house I rented & it rocks! I've put them up as well to try to keep the other image from burning into your mind's eye! I love it!!!!

Halloween

So what are you dressing up as this year? I didn't have time to make a costume, though I think dressing as Lorena Bobbitt would send a certain message to the someone "special"....just kidding. I liked this photo I saw today. Great costume! I love Rene Magritte.
Previous years I've been: A tree with a witch crashed into it w/a don't drink & fly sign. A bag of groceries. A Firestone tire with my head sticking out of the blowout (during that recall), Dr. Evil & used my little sister as mini me. The floor of a movie theatre, a flower in a pot- I even stuck a fuzzy bee on my cheek! Last year I did a vampire because it was easy & I ordered the Lestat contacts. I just wanted an excuse to wear a spiked collar to work!!!! Plus the fangs I had were great..... So give me your all time favorites- even if it's only been someone you saw dressed up! I saw a great costume one year in the village parade. This guy was walking around in a clear casing with balloons inside. He was a lava lamp! Pretty cool....

Serious Head Injuries Prompt Recall of Bumbo Baby Sitter Seats

New Warnings and Instructions to Be Provided To Consumers

This just explains so much about me. Who knew that falling on your head a bunch as a baby is bad for you? Probably my mom but she was most likely on the phone gossiping or smoking weed in the bathroom! I turned out just fine and I flipped my walker, climbed and fell out of my play pen, fell of the bunk bed, and there was an incident with my aunt, who is only 4 yrs. older than I am, that I still don't trust. Cause' I just sprung up out of my stroller and took a leap at 14 months old. Yeah, OK Aunt Sharyn. So besides the fact that I can never pull a Britney and shave my head, I still feel tat iM jus fineeeeeee!

If you're interested in the recall here you go:

http://www.cpsc.gov/cpscpub/prerel/prhtml08/08046.html

What spreads faster than Paris Hilton's herpes?

No, not her legs (though it may be a close match!)

Seriously, I might be a Yankee bitch but I hope all of you in SoCal and those of you who have family there are doing well in spite of the wildfires. Contrary to popular belief, I don't believe that New York and the surrounding areas are the center of the Universe.

I was speaking to my co-workers about some fabric that was given to me this morning and a temp came up & asked me if I can believe how lucky I am. I said, "For free fabric?!?!?" He said, "No, that we aren't suffering the wildfire or flooding like Cali & New Orleans!" I then told him to pack up his shit and get out...just kidding... we all shared the sentiment & astonishment over the fact that the Santa Ana winds are gusting at 100 mph (according to our local news). I do hope that the winds let up so that the firefighters can kick some wildfire ass! Hang in there everyone! I'm thinking of you & will be following the news....

Sapa Vietnam Church & Ben

This is one of my faves. I took this in 1999 and always have a print hanging in my home & office. The scan is crap but I'm so in love with the photo. There's some that I took that were just amazing & I was still learning then so I had many happy accidents (What up Bob Ross!) I just love the clouds coming down onto the mountains and the rickety foot bridge.

There's some shots of lotus blossoms that I got that are almost surreal. Then I got one of these children shaking the outer shells of of rice grains and the dust coming off of the baskets they used. I just love it. I actually took one of the Brooklyn bridge when we were out on the water and it has been raining that day so there was a ton of condensation and fog obscuring the towers. I developed the film a week or two after 9/11 & it was eerie. I've never shared my work with people because I get shy. If it's for work, they take my cards and I don't have much say in what goes up so it's out of my hands. If it were up to me, they'd get so little that I'd be out of a job. I took some photos inside of Big Ben on a freelance assignment for my friend's company. I'll include that since it's available to me right now.